How many times have you let your anger get the best of you? Did you do or say something that you now wish you hadn't?
We probably all did. It's normal, and we're just people, after all.
Everyone has trouble with anger sometimes. The main thing that makes you different from me is that you know how to control your anger instead of letting it control you.
It's not easy to keep your temper in check, especially when you've been provoked. Still, if you find yourself in this situation again, you can try my 5 easy steps.
Step 1: Figure out what makes you angry.
Start by figuring out what makes you feel bad or upset. Step away from what you're doing or the situation that's making you angry, take a deep breath, and clear your mind. Think about what got you into this mess.
To fix something, you have to know what's wrong. Right?
Step 2: Use them as a sign to stop.
By the time you finish Step 1, you probably know what made you angry. You might not know everything about it, but that's fine. You have "some" ideas, at least.
Use these to tell your anger to stop. You're upset because the little voices in your head are telling you upsetting things. This makes you feel upset, which makes you angry.
Stop listening to all these little voices inside your head, and you'll be able to think for yourself without being influenced by them or the situation.
Step 3: Tell yourself things that are good.
Positive thinking is important. You can stop worrying thoughts from bothering you by telling yourself something good. Say something nice to yourself that will help you feel better.
For example, "This feeling of anger is only temporary, and I don't want to say or do something stupid that I'll regret later."
Put a stop to your emotions. Tell yourself to take it easy and slow down.
Step 4: Make sure you can be understood.
Find out what's going on for yourself. Ask yourself, I "What's really going on here?"
Then you can feel sad about the situation but not angry at the people who are making it happen.
Step 5: Come up with some good goals
Try to make goals for yourself that are more realistic given the problem you are in.
Ask yourself, "What other ways can I handle this?"
Be as clear and specific as you can.
"What are you going to do to change this?"
Make a list of the positive ways you can think of to reach your goals.
Ask yourself, "What good things can I do to get where I want to go?"
Lastly, choose a good way to reach your goal and move quickly on it.
The five easy steps I just told you are exactly what I do when I'm angry. You can try them out if you find yourself in a similar situation.
Everyone gets mad sometimes, but the important question is, "What can you do to fix this?"
Don't let your anger run your life. Instead, take charge of it.
