Is your personal life a mess? How do you feel about yourself? Everyone can always do better, but some of us need more help than others.
If you ask yourself, "What do I need to do to get better?" there are ways to get better. Sitting down and writing down the things about yourself that you don't like could help. Make sure you put the most important one at the top and the ones that are less important at the bottom. Work on this list every day and cross things off as you feel they are getting better. Don't stop making them better just because you've checked them off. Changes take time, but you can make them.
Do you have a full-time or part-time job? If not, do you volunteer? Don't just sit around the house doing nothing; get busy. Helping other people and keeping busy are always good ideas. When you help other people, you find out that someone else has it worse than you do. Having a job is always helpful, especially if you are worried about paying a bill but don't have enough money. Every dollar you make is one dollar more than you had yesterday.
Offer to help out at the library for a few hours a day or even just one day a week. The hospital closest to you might need a volunteer, even if it's just to talk to the people who are alone and no one comes to see them. Helping other people makes you feel good, especially if you can see that they liked it or got something out of it.
Take a little time for yourself every day. If you don't take care of yourself, you can't help anyone else. Draw a bubble bath and relax in it, take a walk by yourself, or go to the library and read, then bring a book home to read and unwind. Doing something small for yourself every day can help you relax and feel better.
How about some exercise? If you don't do it already, try it and see how it makes you feel better. After a while, you'll start to look forward to working out by yourself or with a friend. Don't talk about your problems when you're walking with a friend. Instead, walk quickly and talk about the weather or something you're going to do tomorrow. You'll eventually notice how much better you feel when you get out and care for yourself.
Do you watch much TV? The news can sometimes make people sad, but it can also teach them something and give them something to talk about with their friends and family. Watch the weather and talk about what you think will happen tomorrow, like if it will rain or snow. The news is a good topic to talk about with other people.
Maybe once a week, go out and see someone. Instead of cleaning the house when you're at home, go hang out with a friend. If you don't have many, your friends will tell you to go make some. Volunteering is a good way to make new friends, and when you check out that book from the library, you can talk to the librarian. If you're willing to talk to people, you can make friends anywhere. Don't worry if you don't make a new friend every time you talk to someone. You and someone else will be there to be the friend you need or want in your life.
Remember that life is short, and it's fine if you need to change a little bit here and there. No one is perfect, and the only thing you can change is how good your life is.
