If people would just listen to each other, they could save a lot of relationships. If people had just listened, many relationships would have ended much sooner. And that was a good idea. What good is a relationship that just makes the pain last longer?
What is it to listen? Why not test yourself and find out how well you listen? Let me stop you for a moment and ask: are you reading this without any other things going on? Does your whole mind go to what you're reading? Don't you have anything else on your mind? Are you coming up with your own ideas before you finish reading? Are you calm and thinking about what people are saying and why? Sad to say, this isn't true for most people, and that's our mistake.
Most of us have a pretty good idea of what's going on in our partners' minds before they completely break down. We don't listen to that, though. We are either arguing or trying to persuade. We're not too busy to listen. How to listen to your partner so you can understand what they are saying? I'll tell you something very simple that will help you a lot and save you a lot of pain.
When your partner says something you completely disagree with, don't talk over them. Keep on listening. Just listen and watch what they do with their bodies. Take a piece of paper after the conversation is over and write down what was said. Be very careful. Now, take a close look at what you wrote. Listen carefully to every word. At this point, figure out what you mean. If, at this point, you think your partner won't let the relationship go on in peace, you should end it. Before you break up, you should tell your partner what you don't agree with about their point of view and why. Why make things worse? Let it end. Test yourself on what you heard. It will pay off in a big way.
