Three times yes! On your first date, tell your date that you have kids. If your date can't accept that you have kids, that's a red flag that you shouldn't go on a date with this person. Your kids are a part of who you are. If your date doesn't like that about you, then they don't like you.
Kenneth thinks to himself, "I like Sharon a lot, and I know she's single and doesn't have kids because I heard her tell her trainer Irene that she doesn't." I really want to ask her out on a date, but I'm raising four kids by myself, and I don't think she'll like me if she knows that. I don't know what to do.
Sharon thinks to herself, "There's this guy I met at the gym. His name is Kenneth." I like him a lot because he always says the right thing and is so polite. I'd like to hang out with him a lot. I don't think he will ask me out. I feel bad because I lied to my trainer Irene about not having kids. In fact, I have three kids. I said this out loud to Irene so that Kenneth could hear it and maybe want to date me. I don't know what to do next. I'd like to hang out with Kenneth a lot. I just don't know what to say about my children.
How should I tell my date about my children? Use some of these ideas to tell your date about your kids:
- While you're talking on your date, tell your date that you have kids. You should also use this time to find out if your date has kids.
- If you talk on the phone or by email with your date before you meet in person, let your date know you have kids.
- Think about making your date a meal at your house and getting your kids involved. This is the perfect chance for you to meet your date's kids.
- Ask your date to pick you up from your house for your date, and then show them your kids.
You say, "I told my date that I have kids, and now they don't want to go on another date with me. What should I do?" Don't do anything. Think of it as a good thing that you found out your date doesn't like kids. Anyhow, you didn't have to be with that person. All the best to them. Just keep going! It's more important to date someone who will accept you and your kids.
If this becomes a problem, it will be easier to move on if you tell your date right away that you have kids. The whole point of dating is to find someone you get along with and who loves you for who you are, regardless of whether you have kids.
