Many men find it hard and awkward to strike up a conversation with a woman, especially if she's a stranger and very attractive. Aside from that, they often make the mistake of being too nice and too generous with flowers, paying for dinners, and showing that they don't have much confidence or self-esteem.
Women, on the other hand, don't like weak, dishonest, or insecure men. They will either turn him down right away or, what's worse, take advantage of the situation by using him to buy her meal after meal and gift after gift, while they look for real love, romance, and sex with other men. In this case, the woman has two men: one who takes care of her and one who loves her.
When a man asks a woman to dance or offers to buy her a drink without ever building attraction or chemistry, this is called the "nice boy, fawning, wimpy" approach.
Is the answer Cocky instead of Wussy?
As we've seen, being a "nice boy" is not the best way, and being really mean and rude won't work either. The right way, which has been shown to work 90 percent of the time, is to be confident, bold, cocky, and funny.
With this method, you build relationships on a give-and-take, a compliment and a bust (with a smile), you show the woman you're confident enough to criticise her, you act naturally around women, you're not afraid of her, you don't care if she likes you or not, you're honest and say what you think, and you play the role of the confident, hard-working funny guy. Now you test her self-confidence, you challenge her, you make her curious, and you increase the attraction. Let her try to get you. You should be her prize for acting the way she should have with you. You should be a reward for her hard work.
For example, you might say, "I like your jacket, it's really nice," which is a compliment, and then add, "But it doesn't go so well with your shoes, does it?" You did that on purpose, you should practise on it.
You should tease her by doing things like handing her something and then taking it back at the last second. You should also be spontaneous, unexpected, a teaser, and interesting.
How can you tell if she likes you?
It's easier than you think, and here's how it works: You say, "What a nice pair of boots you're wearing! I really like them." She looks at you and says, "Who are you?" You say, "Thanks." You: Aren't you going to melt in those in this heat? (Grinning) Or are you trying to hide your feet from me? She: (smiling) No, hell no, I love them. I'll bet your feet aren't as nice as mine, Mr. Long Nose. (She answered, so she is also interested *-). You: Wow, I know you think a lot of yourself because you're a pretty woman. Why don't we have a feet contest?
It's important to keep it going with a light, funny, and fun attitude. Without even realising it, you are both working on building a relationship and your attraction to each other.
When you first start dating a woman, remember that you are not on a job interview. Don't make it sound like a series of questions and answers, don't make it boring, and don't try to show off. Instead, talk to her about things she likes and things you both like, like famous TV shows, etc. It may seem superficial at first, but this is the right way to go. Try not to talk about your problems at work, with your parents, etc., at least in the beginning.
