Let's face it: if you want marriage advice, you could spend DAYS looking for it on the internet and not even get to the beginning of what's out there.
But the sad truth is that most people in your situation do the same thing: they RESEARCH but never ACT on the concepts and ideas they learn because they come up with "excuses" for why THEIR situation is different.
Well, let me tell you....your situation is NOT different. Even though my marriage was crazy, my "situation" wasn't any different...
So why should YOU listen to what I have to say about marriage? Because after 27 years of fighting, car chases, and fights over her way vs. my way, I was able to save my marriage by myself.
Our marriage was the worst it could be.
I married someone who is completely different from me. In fact, if you looked at our habits, values, priorities, and personalities, you'd think we were from different planets. And that's before you consider the differences between men and women. This brings me to one of the best marriage tips I can give you...
LEARN THE "5 LOVE LANGUAGES"
When I found this important piece of marriage advice, it really helped me understand what made my wife happy. We often wish our partners would treat us in a certain way, but we don't tell them what we want them to do.
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman makes it easy to tell your partner what you need from them to feel loved and what they need from you.
I was SHOCKED when I found out what made my wife feel loved.
She even asked for "acts of service." I thought she would like "words of affirmation" too since I liked them.
I didn't meet her needs because I didn't like doing "acts of service," which are things like housework, gardening, and repairs. Before I read this book, I didn't know what I was doing wrong.
...which reminds me...another here's a great piece of marriage advice you should remember...
Many couples make the BIG mistake of treating their partner the way they WISH their partner would treat them.
In other words, smothering your partner with hugs and kisses won't make them want to hug and kiss you more if what they really need from you are "acts of service" like taking out the trash or cleaning the house!
This book is great if you want to improve your marriage and have your partner meet your needs by meeting theirs FIRST.
Now, this last piece of marriage advice is something I've never heard anyone else say, so pay close attention...
You can't make your marriage better until you want to.
Many people look for the "recipe" for a happy marriage, hoping to find a simple LIST of things they can do and then just "cross off."
But, sadly, that's not how REAL marriages work. I could give you a long list of marriage tips that would make your relationship better, but it wouldn't help. If you're like most married people, you won't do ANYTHING that someone tells you to do about your marriage until YOU WANT TO DO IT FIRST.
Telling you to "go do something" to make your marriage better isn't going to help if you hate your partner and feel so bad that you can't even bring yourself to do it.
The key is to actually WANT to do something good for your marriage, and then to actually do it.
Believe me, it's MUCH easier to do something nice for your spouse when you're feeling good about your marriage than it is to "force" yourself to be the first one to take a step toward a better marriage.
I know what you are thinking now. "How do I get to a place where I want to do something to make my marriage better? I'm so mad at my husband or wife right now!"
Well, I'm glad you asked. I have a free mini-course called "How to Get Rid of Bad Feelings...the Moment They Show Up." If you're even a little bit interested, read on so you can start the mini-course right away...
