Do you want to know how to talk to that new guy in your life? Or maybe you just want to know who the next man in your life will be. It's never too late for anyone to learn how to speak the language of love.
You may have seen the girl who dresses like a boy but still has a lot of guys interested in her. If you could stop being jealous for a second, you'd see why men were drawn to her. She just kind of fit into him, like a missing piece of a jigsaw puzzle he didn't even know he needed.
Instead of rolling your eyes at how happy and confused he looks, why not find out how she did it? Find out how to talk to him in a whole new way by learning his love language and being fluent in it.
We all know that communication is the rock on which love is built. When we are in love, we understand each other. When two people are in love, they talk in a unique way.
Some people call it "chemistry," but you need to know his love language even to get to the "chemistry" stage. To figure out what that might be, we need to know how he interacts with the world.
Everyone experiences the world through their eyes, ears, and bodies. Even though we use all three of our senses, psychologists have found that one of them is always stronger. It doesn't mean it takes the place of the others, but if you pay attention, you'll see which one is more important.
Asking questions is the easiest and fastest way to learn his language, and since questions are the most common way to get to know someone or start a conversation, he won't know.
He just got back from a work trip. You ask him where he went. Listen to what he says:
If he can see it, he might say, "The weather was awful." I never once got to see the sun.
- An auditory person will talk about sounds: we got the account, which was good. But it was too noisy where I stayed.
- He is a feeler if he says something like, "I have to say, I don't like travelling alone very much." When I go to new places, I miss my friends.
Knowing a man's love language is the key to communicating with him in a way that makes him feel like you are the missing piece to his puzzle. You'll just fit. Of course, one question isn't going to tell you. You'll have to keep an eye out for a pattern.
When you find the most important sense, you'll want to talk his language. The visual person will want to know what you saw on the way over, while the auditory person will want to know about the new CD you just bought.
No matter what your love language is, it doesn't matter. As long as you know how to talk to him in his Love Language, all the other girls will soon be jealous of you. Unless you let them in on your secret.
